Oh, Jude, this parenting thing is difficult. You see, you are your own little person with your own little ideas about what is good for you. Guess what? You have some funny ideas about what is good for you. Let me help: don’t pull the cats tail, don’t try to crawl off the bed, and don’t eat things off the floor.
As you grow, you will have ideas that differ from mine, and that is okay (I say begrudgingly) but here are some pearls you should take to heart. They are written with love and honesty from your oh, so wise but still learning mother…
1.) Be the person who invites the new kid to sit by him.
2.) Be the person okay with doing the hard work. Don’t feel entitled.
3.) Be the person who sends thank you notes, even for small things.
4.) Be the person who has the courage to be themselves. Even if it is silly or not cool.
5.) Be the person who only has debt for their home and education. These things are an investment. Don’t rack up debt for silly things you will end up regretting. (“Neither a borrower or lender be”). Don’t loan people money. If you want to help someone out, consider it a charitable gift, and don’t expect to get it back.
6.) Be the person who can laugh at themselves. Do it often.
7.) Get off the couch! Be active in your own life. Play in the dirt, even as an adult!
8.) But still indulge yourself with the occasional cat nap. Don’t underestimate the necessity of sleep.
9.) Don’t watch too much TV. Read more.
10.) It is okay to have a little fun when you are older, but remember to do everything you do in moderation. Also, you don’t need alcohol to be the life of the party!
11.) Look for red flags in your relationships. Don’t marry a girl (or boy) with daddy (or mommy) issues. Find a strong woman with opinions of her own. Forgive her her flaws.
12.) Be the person with a firm handshake, but for goodness sake, don’t try to break the other person’s hand.
13.) Be the person willing to bite off a little more than your can chew. Be confident in yourself and that will make up the slack.
14.) Be the person with good manners and etiquette.
15.) Be trustworthy. Have integrity.
16.) Be a democrat. Don’t go to OU.
17.) Have pride in your country and your state.
18.) And be the person who calls their mom to tell her she’s great!